Category Archives: grief and loss

How Many Tears?

“Mommy, how many needles does it take to make a baby?” My eyes blinked open. I’d nearly nodded off on the acupuncture table. My four year old was literally in my face, his searching blue eyes and button nose clownishly upside … Continue reading

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My First and Last, My One and Only

“So, which one of you is his birthmother?” a fellow mom asks me outside the elementary school. It’s the second day of kindergarten, and her words snap me out of my reverie. I realize I’m still staring forlornly at the … Continue reading

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Making Up for Lost Time

Confession: my son was conceived in the middle of an on-line graduate class. A class I was teaching, no less, in mid-discussion. Or rather, discussions, as the internet enables me to teach two classes simultaneously. At that fateful moment when … Continue reading

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New Beginnings

New Year’s Eve, 2008. No big splashy party, no midnight kiss on the dance floor. We’re holed up at Amanda’s mom’s place, a tiny, draughty row house in a small mining village in the north-east of England, company housing from … Continue reading

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